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30 days. One small step a day. Out of the confusion and into your self-respect era.

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You already know.

You've read the posts. You took the checklist. You know the red flags by heart.

But knowing and doing are two different things, especially when he texts "hey stranger" right as you're finally moving on.

You don't need closure from him. You need a plan for you.

What's inside

Four weeks. Four shifts.

Week 1

See it clearly

Name what this really is, without the excuses you've been making for him.

Week 2

Step back

Boundaries, mute buttons and what to do when he slides back in.

Week 3

Come back to you

Your time, your friends, your plans. Rebuild the life you put on hold.

Week 4

Choose better

Your new standards, so the next one has to actually show up.

This is for you if…

Be honest, sis.

  • You've been "talking" for months and still don't know what you are.
  • You keep saying "this is the last time" … and then it isn't.
  • You check his last active more than you check your own goals.
  • You're ready to stop waiting and start choosing yourself.
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Catherine is an AI character. The Situationship Exit Plan is for self-reflection and personal growth, not therapy or professional advice. If you ever feel unsafe in a relationship, please reach out to someone you trust or a local support line.

Science Explains How Anger Can Change Our Brains And Thinking In A Good Way

MS Maria Shinta May 16, 2016 3 min read
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We are so often taught to avoid negative emotions in order to be our most positive selves and maintain a socially acceptable status quo. But what about the ways we could use negative emotions to our advantage? What about the ways we could harness emotions that are perceived as negative, but could be used productively? For example, getting agitated and losing your temper is bad, but using the energy that sustains agitation can quite possibly be productive. What’s more, anger can even change our brains in a good way!

How angercan be positive

There are good reasons why we tend to subdue emotions like anger, because it can be difficult to harness and harmful in its full effect. Yet anger is a good example of how we can take negative emotions and consider their full use.

While we are taught that anger is largely detrimental and inhibiting to our daily lives, this may not always be the case. Studies have shown that when fuelled by anger, we are less likely to think in systematic ways and we have high-powered cognitive abilitycomparedto people who feelsad or depressed. When we lack systematic ways to process information, we tend to look at the bigger picture to gather more clues. Such way of thinking is highly related to creativity.

Channelthe negatives in order to be positive

Studies also show that productivity with emotions like anger isdependent on the situation and on the person. It is an emotion deemed to be beneficial only in some, but certainly not all, contexts. For example, anger might be used productively in a negotiation, but only when the situation is confrontational. In other words, the heightened nature of the interaction may be fuelled with anger, but it is down to the person and the nature of the negotiation to be able to fuel the anger wisely. Studies showed that when these circumstances had productive results, it was because the participants wanted to feel anger in order to produce the desired result. They were aware of the scientific benefits and were able to harness the emotion productively.

Be aware when you make use of anger

Alternate studies have shown that angry people make better leaders, but again it is circumstantial. If those they are leading are not sensitive to conflict, the leadership can be successful. The research indicates an alignment of personalities. In order for the negative emotions to have a positive effect, the people involved need to be emotionally compatible and emotionally knowledgeable about the possible outcomes. They must be aware that anger can be beneficial, but also be able to recognize the dangers and the responsibility of such interactions. How negative or how positive our experiences may beis dependent on what we are trying to achieve and how we approach these situations.

If we can recognize these thingswithin ourselvesand manage to harness them with maturity and knowledge, there is a chance that we can use perceivably negative emotions in a productive way and turn them into positive results. We can change the way we think about “negatives” and approach themwith a sense of neutrality or even positivity. We can begin to understand that emotions — even the “bad” ones that we wish to avoid — can aid us for the better when it comes to our psychological and overall health.

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Maria Shinta

Freelance writer, travel blogger, web designer, digital marketer, and SAG-AFTRA background actress. Writing about personal growth, mindset, spirituality, and the digital nomad lifestyle — based everywhere and nowhere.