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  • How to Be happy Again after a Breakup or a Loss

    How to Be happy Again after a Breakup or a Loss

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    By: Maria Shinta

    Breaking up suck! Either breaking up from a relationship. Breaking up from a job. Lost one of a family member.

    Any form of separation from the person that we had spent so much time together on day to day life, that gave us so much joy and memories. Either good memories or bad memories, that makes us feel alive and important and suddenly has to be taken away from us.

    Breaking up is always make us feel sad and depress. We quite often questioning ourselves what did I do wrong? How do I suppose to move on? How am I going to cope with this heartache? How am I going to be happy again?

    There is no easy fix to having the same feeling as it was before the breakup or at a loss happened. Nothing will go back to normal again as it used to be.

    But we can always at least try to find ourselves slowly to be happy and move on from the breakup or at a loss.

    Here are 5 tips on how you can try to be happy again.

    1. Take a long walk into the woods (sound familiar?).

    Hillary Clinton, former Secretary of State did just that after she lost in a Presidential election.

    Hiking down the wood, enjoy the fresh air and stay out of all the noises from people around you that trying to give you more advice that sometimes, it doesn’t really help. What you need some time just to be alone and do some thinking, reflect yourselves.

    2. De-clutter your space.

    Get rid of some of the memories you had in the past. Either put them in storage or just give them away to Goodwill. I know by doing this is suck. Sometimes, it gives you the feeling to break down and it’s hard to let go of the memories, such as the clothes, he or she used to wear. Or the stuff that you used to use at work that can’t be used anymore. All the things that set you free and let you move on to become happy again. Just let them go.

    3. Go back to the gym.

    If you had been absent for a while because of your feeling depressed about the breakup or at a loss that made you didn’t want to do anything at all. Or if you never had a gym membership, go sign up to the gym and get some adrenalin pumping up. Some of the gyms also have a yoga class that you can take. It will help you to breathe better and think clearly. It will make you feel good and start to be happy again.

    4. Do some writing

    Write down the thing you want to accomplish before you even had a relationship or had a full-time job. You probably miss having an art class that you always dreamed of or an acting class that you won’t be able to take because you are too busy working. Or write your own story, what will affect you the most in your life by losing someone or your job? How are you going to move on from now on? Make a list what the thing that makes you happy by yourself without the other person. Do something that you felt annoyed by the other person and now you can do whatever you want without anyone nagging at you.  Set your own goal that you just want to be happy finding your path. And everything else will follow and fall into a place together.

    5. Travel.

    Uh yeah….. Traveling is always fun. Either by yourself or with your partner. Pack your bag. Go to places where you have never been before. Places on your bucket list that you always dream off to go. Learn to surf on a beautiful sandy beach in Bali. Ride an elephant in Thailand. Make a trip to Nepal by train from Moscow. Travel across Europe. Teach an English class while traveling to a third-world country. They seem always looking for some native English speaker to teach a local student or even an International school in Vietnam, Indonesia, Thailand, Cambodia, and many other countries. And it’s always fun to learn a local culture. Be open-minded to try a local delicatessen. Learn something new while traveling, such a learn a traditional dancing or traditional cooking. You never know, you might find a new hobby, new friends, and new love:)

    Be happy out there and free yourself from the heartache, sadness and determine to yourselves that you needed to be happy for your own soul and health.

    So, those are some of the things that you can do to make yourselves to be happy again and let go of your sadness in life. At least, a try from now. I sure there is more you can do to make yourselves to be happy again. I will let you know when it comes to mind.

     

  • One Day You Will Meet Someone Who Just Feels Right

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    One day, you will meet someone who feels right. Your mind won’t go into overdrive, your senses won’t go into high alert, and your heart won’t ache painfully at the thought of him.

    You won’t have to stalk him on his social media to find out information about him. You won’t have to spend endless moment analyzing his every action. You won’t have to suppress the words you want to say and restrain the love you feel for him in fear of scaring him away. You won’t have to wait for the stars to finally align or the timing to be right before you can get together with him.

    Instead, his intentions will be crystal clear. He will grab hold of any chance to show you how much you mean to him in the little and thoughtful things he does for you. He will be eager to spend time with you and make time for you. He will be ready to be with you as if you are who he’s been looking for all his life.

     

     

    One day, you will meet someone who makes you believe in love again.

     

    You will fall for someone when you are not looking for love. When your heart is an empty tomb from all those who hurt you. When your walls are impenetrable with no chance of a crack of sunlight peeking through. Your soul will batter and worn from all the damage you’ve endured.

    Yet, despite what you went through, he will make love easy and natural. He will make you want to open your heart and trust. He will make you want to take a leap of faith and love him as though you’ve never been hurt.

    One day, you will meet someone who feels the same way as you do. He won’t deceive you with elusive lies and glamorous promises but will treat you with sincerity. He won’t casually dismiss what you and he have but will be serious towards you. He won’t denounce the relationship he has with you and instead will announce it proudly for everyone to see.

    And instead of just loudly proclaiming how much you mean to him and not doing anything, he will show you, quietly, every day, how deep his feelings are for you.

    He won’t promise you the world, but he will make you a part of his.

    There will be no inkling of doubt that he is the one for you. There will be no uncertainty about his feelings. There will be no room for confusion about his intentions.

    He will accept you the way you are. He won’t care about what you can do for him. He won’t want you to be someone you are not.

    One day, you will meet someone who makes you feel like yourself.


    You will be you when you are with him. You won’t have to convince him of all the ways he should love you. You won’t have to wait in vain for him to realize his feeling for you. You won’t have to be ashamed, as through you’re a dirty secret he has to hide from everyone.

    In fact, everything will become simple. You will say what is on your mind and you will let down your guard. You will relinquish control and cast away all your fear and misgiving.

    You will push away all the old hurt from your painful past and step boldly into the future with him.

    One day, you will meet someone who is right for you, and he will remind you why it has never worked out with anyone else.

    He will show you that love is tender and beautiful – just like how you always envisioned. He will love you- the way you deserve.

  • TV | MOVIE | COMMERCIAL

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    I’m a member of SAG – AFTRA (The Screen Actors Guild – American Federation of Television and Radio Artists). I graduated from TV Broadcasting School and it’s nothing new to be in front of the camera. I thought I would be a journalist after I graduated from TV Broadcasting School but it ended up I was more interested in TV/Movie productions and becoming an inspiring actress.

    Here is some of my contribution to the entertainment industry. Experiences are the best life learning that you don’t get in any school. Be out there. Be Positive. Chase your own dream. Surround yourself with a positive environment that lifts you up. Don’t let others bring you down and tell you otherwise. Believe in yourself. It doesn’t matter how small your contribution is in life, you are doing the best you can.

    TV shows and feature films that I was involved with listed below. Small part but gain lots of experience and got to work with Hollywood A-lister. More updates to come…

    Westworld Season 1, Episode 1.

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    Westworld, Season 1, Episode 1

    Recent jury duty at the Dr. Ken TV show. Can you spot me?

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    My small tiny project contribution with college humor recently. Stop Saying “It Ruined My Childhood.”

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    My small tiny project contribution with college humor recently. Stop Saying “It Ruined My Childhood.”

    It was a pleasant to work with Johnny Depp on his movie, Transcendence.

    I played one of the jurors at Grey’s Anatomy Season 10 Episode 9 Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word.

     

     

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    Shared Parenting PSA

     

  • How Fame Will Not Bring You Happiness

    How Fame Will Not Bring You Happiness

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  • College Humor

    College Humor

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    My small tiny project contribution with college humor recently. Stop Saying “It Ruined My Childhood.”
  • Aging Gracefully

    Aging Gracefully

    Reading Time: < 1 minuteA lot of us might have thought that age just a number. Who would thought that will affect us on many levels in a society and the way you socialize with. Based on my own personal life. I personally don’t like when someone asks me, how old are you? I’m a very private person. You have to know me for years and be my best friend to know my real age.

     

    I like how my acting coach told me that in this industry you never give away your real age. If someone asks you, how old are you? The answer would be, what character do you want me to be? In that case, just remind me of the article I read a while back as follows: <a href=”http://www.today.com/id/44945749/ns/today-today_entertainment/t/actress-wants-million-age-reveal-imdb/”>Actress wants $1 million for age reveal on IMDb</a>

     

    It’s an old school etiquette that still persists: it’s downright rude to ask a woman her age. It might seem silly, but there’s a lot of societal pressure on women to seem young for as long as humanly possible.or longer. So asking, “how old are you?” is often a time bomb of bad social behavior. But the stakes on perceived age are even higher in Hollywood, where there are scads of roles for ingenues, but fewer and fewer parts as an actress get older.

     

    That’s very true as we get older, it is harder to find the role that fits our age. But that doesn’t mean there is no opportunity. There will always be an opportunity. Older actor, older crowd. Look at Betty White, she is about 90 years old and she still rocking the entertainment world. And we are still laughing at her wittiness and comedic line.

     

    To be continued….

  • The Magic of Tears.

    The Magic of Tears.

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    It relieves all the pain in the heart
    It’s joy of the happiness in the soul
    It also to express the anger, unhappiness when life doesn’t go your way
    Frustration
    Tear can’t lie
    So does the eyes
    Tear & eyes are the expression for what you feel at the past, at the moment & the future
    Tears & eyes are the window to your soul
    Tear is 1 percent of water
    And 99 percentage of feeling
    In tears doesn’t make you a weak person
    It shows that you are a strong enough to be vulnerable
    It shows that you have a sensitivities in your heart
    I cry when I go to bed
    I cry when I drive around in town by myself
    I cry when I’m alone
    I cry when I’m happy
    I cry when I watch a sad movie
    There are so many thing that makes me cry when my thought wander around
    Tears & I are becoming a best friend forever
    Don’t be ashamed if you cry
    Be thankful that you still can cry
  • Don’t ever let anyone break your soul!

    Don’t ever let anyone break your soul!

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    Don’t ever let anyone break your soul !

    Take it easy in life.

    Life is about building a good memory. Life is about having fun together. Life is about having a good laugh together. There is take and give in life. Not only demanding and controlling.

  • Traveloque

    Traveloque

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    I was a rebellious child, and I still do to this day. I love to go out there and explore the world. I started traveling by myself when I was 12 years old. I bravely took a train from Blitar, East Java to Jakarta, the capital city of Indonesia by myself. It took me more than 24 hours to ride a train from East Java to Jakarta, West Java. From that day on, I never looked back. I just love traveling and being out there.

    I had been traveling through Asia, Europe in the early 90’s before Facebook and other social media, Instagram, Tweeter even exist.

    I had been to Disneyland’s grand opening in Paris in 1993 as much as I enjoyed white water rafting at De Joncel, Montpellier, Paris. I also lived in Taipei, Taiwan for a year and of course lived in my beautiful country, Indonesia for half of my life.

    I used to live in Holland for a few years before I settled in to the United State in 1998.

    I have been to at least 18 countries, 17 states, and 105 cities in the USA, 15 cities in Germany, and many other cities overseas.

    I will go for anything from hiking, camping out, museum hoping and all of those fun things. as much as I enjoyed kayaking at the American River Parkway, Sacramento, CA.

    And I still crave traveling for more.

    I used to take thousands of pictures of places where I had been but unfortunately, a lot of them were missing, either lost on the trip, bad pictures or my friend/ex’s who were traveling with me took the pictures and we lost contact. I tried as much as possible to preserve the pictures.

    My point is, we can lose money, material things but travel is the best teacher and learning experience that we don’t get at school. Travel is the best memory that you can’t replace them with material things. A friend comes and go. Material things can be gone in a blink of an eye but the memory will be there forever. Unless you lose your memory too.

     

    Still ongoing writing…….. More to come!

     

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